How often do you find yourself inundated with ideas as well as possible directions to take? I hear a lot of year 11/12 students going through this very predicament and it doesn’t seem to end with career choices. I find myself, at the age of 38, regularly overwhelmed with choices and if you’ve ever suffered with any kind of anxiety, you know the word CHOICE can be the gateway to total disengagement from opportunity.
So what do we do then? How do we grapple this area of choice and selection and feeling like we’ve chosen/selected well? And what do we do with the ‘What if’ phrase that stalls us – ‘what if I get it wrong?’ ‘what if I hate what I’m doing?’ ‘what if I fail?’…
It’s time to set the record straight. Let’s begin with what stands in the way.
‘What if’ needs to go back to where it belongs – in a big ol’ box taped up and thrown into the trash. This phrase and others like it, debilitate a person who is feeling in any way overwhelmed by choice. Let’s replace it instead with something much more positive and productive.
Because here is the truth: it’s okay to change your mind. It’s okay to choose a direction, get there, discover it’s not what you thought you wanted and turn away from it. It’s okay to say yes to something and then decide that no is the right answer.
The earth will still keep turning if I fail at making the right decision. Amazing hey?
One last thing: failure is ONLY ever official if you let your last experience keep you from getting up off the ground and trying again. If you let it keep you in the dust, then yes, you can call that failure. No one wants to live like this. So get up. Dust yourself off. Wipe your face. Take a BIG breath and step forward.
Now that ‘failure‘ has become an experience and that experience is now, in this very moment of stepping forward, propelling you into a deeper understanding of who you are, what you can achieve, what you desire and how you’re going to go about being the very best version of YOU that you can be.
So as you read this today, take heart dear friend. You, me, and so many others are faced with choices all the time, faced with the challenge of getting past that daunting decision making process and faced with the fear of failure BUT as we stand together and remind each other that the worst thing that can happen is that we have to begin again, we can be courageous in our decision making, bold in our choice of direction and motivated to move past any hurdles along the way.
Blessings to you today!
In love and honour,